| Is it good for adopted children to find out the identity of their birth parents?
Adopted children can now find out the identity of their birth parents in America, since open adoption is increasing these days. So there are adopted children who want know their real parents. And some people are worried that it might affect in good ways or in bad way. I think that looking for their biological parents has more positive effects for the adopted children even though there might be some bad influences.
First, adoptees gain self-confidence and establish their identities properly. Since the parents living with them are not birth parents they might ask themselves "Who am I? Where did I come from?" When they find their biological parents they can find about their birth and the lives with the parents before the adoption. This helps the children to build their identities firmly.
Second, they have a closure. Adopted kids may feel angry that they were being abandoned by their biological parents and want to figure out the reason. But there might be whole different story for that. The parents might have been very poor, and could not take care of their baby in proper condition. So there was no choice for them but to let go off their baby. By meeting the birth parents and hearing why he or she was sent away as adoption, they will find the truth and have a closure.
Also it might be helpful in medical condition. For example, if an adopted boy is ill and needs transplant to survive, then the birth parents can help the boy and save his life. Of course it is not right to find the birth parents only to get medical help from them but it can be very helpful when the situation occurs like that. Additionally parents who adopted the children will know the medical history of their children from them.
So, finding and meeting birth parents can be good in ways of building their identities and self-confidence, having a closure, and getting medical help. Adopted children can have all the answers they have after seeing their biological parents in person. The important thing is that when the children want to find their real parents, they should be fully prepared and ready to meet them and should not have high hope since the meeting can end up differently from their expectations. |
Monday, May 7, 2012
Dasom Yoo/ adopted children/ Thur34
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I`m very interesting because your opinion and the first statement is same as mine! But I think yours is better than mine. However, when I read the third paragraph, I was confused what the word 'closure' means. I think its meaning is slightly imprecise.
ReplyDeleteWhat I loved in this piece of writing is that you have such brilliant idea in your fourth paragraph! Actually the ideas in your first and second body paragraphs are exactly same as my ideas, but I never thought of medical thing! It really struck me!
ReplyDeleteYour main point seems to be "finding out the identity of birth parents of adopted children is fine."
As I said earlier, fourth paragraph struck me powerfully.
Everything was clear to me.
I don't think there is any big problem with this writing! I really loved your essay!
since this essay's topic is different from that of mine, I really enjoyed reading it! anyway, your reasons to support the idea were good.. but i think it'd be much better if it has 'more' details, like exaples or specific explanations.
ReplyDeleteand the sentences in introduction paragraph, ' So there are adopted children who want know their real parents. And some people are worried that it might affect in good ways or in bad way' were not clear to me. I think the flow doesn't seem natural enough.
Is It Good For Adopted Children To Find Out The Identity Of Their Birth Parents?
ReplyDeleteAdopted children can now find out the identity of their birth parents in America, since open adoption is increasing these days. They can call the institution and find out easily than before. So there are adopted children who want know their real parents. But some people are worried that it might affect in good ways or in bad way. I think that looking for their biological parents has more positive effects for the adopted children even though there might be some bad influences.
First, adoptees gain self-confidence and establish their identities properly. Since the parents living with them are not their birth parents they might ask themselves "Who am I? Where did I come from?" When they find their biological parents they can find about their birth and the lives before the adoption by hearing them from their birth parents. So they no longer have to worry about their origin. Also they will feel confident since now they know who they really are and this helps the children to build their identities firmly.
Second, they have a closure and have peace in mind. I heard that there are many adopted kids who still feel angry because they think that they were being abandoned by their biological parents and want to figure out the reason. But there might be whole different story for that. The parents might have been very poor, and could not take care of their baby in proper condition. So there was no choice for them but to let go off their baby. By meeting the birth parents and hearing why he or she was sent away as adoption, they will find the truth and have a closure.
Also it might be helpful in medical condition. For example, if an adopted boy is very sick and needs transplant to survive, then the birth parents can help the boy and save his life. Of course it is not right to find the birth parents only to get medical help from them but it can be very helpful when the situation occurs like that. Additionally parents who adopted the children will know the medical history of their children from them like what the children are allergic to.
So, finding and meeting birth parents can be good in ways of building their identities and self-confidence, having a closure, and getting medical help. Adopted children can have all the answers they have after seeing their biological parents in person. The important thing is that when the children want to find their real parents, they should be fully prepared and ready to meet them and should not have high hope since the meeting can end up differently from their expectations.